Protocol

I need a bit of help here. I’ve been blogging around seven months now. I admit I didn’t read all the WordPress advice, just some pieces that seemed pertinent at the time. I’ll have to go back and check on a few matters. There might be small print in it that I never worry about. And it could come back to bite me on the bum.

But I figure getting my answers from the horse’s mouth, so to speak, might be more helpful to me. And maybe not just to me.

The thing is, I write all sorts of things that come into my head. Sometimes the inspiration comes from other bloggers. When this happens I try to give credit where I think it’s due and therefore link to whatever prompted the thoughts in me.

It would seem that may not be the best way to go. Inadvertently, I may have done the wrong thing by linking to a challenge that I was not invited to take part in. My own fault for not reading the nature of the post properly. It did actually say that it was a guest post. I checked….afterwards……so it was completely my own fault. I was just so intent on responding to the post. As many of you will know my comments can be a bit long-winded. A bit like my posts. Who said that?

Anyway, I started making a comment to a post I read and realised I was in the process of writing a rather long poetic response. So I cut the comment, created a post and linked back to the originator to give credit where it was due I thought. But, in linking to the post it looked as if I was pushing in on the guest challenge without being invited. I was mortified. I wouldn’t presume.

But what to do? I feel not to give credit is somehow crass, pretending that nothing prompted nor inspired. And if I wrote without giving credit and the other blogger is a follower of mine and saw it they may think, ‘Oh thanks very much. Use my idea and don’t even mention me’. I just kind of think that it’s good manners to do so.

Instead, it may be that it’s rather cheeky. To link yourself to another’s blog without asking permission. I don’t have a problem with it. In fact, I’m always really flattered that something I may have said inspired another.

The thing is, I don’t know what to do for the best. My dearly departed mother would have a hairy canary if she thought my manners were lacking. Actually, that’s only partly true. Sometimes, she’d say, ‘Ach fuck it. You can’t please everybody’. She would you know. She was quite a woman. But I’m having a fit thinking I’m ignoring some blogging protocol I’m not aware of. I know I could go search the forums. But have you any idea how frustrating it is to find what you’re looking for in those places? Of course you do. So that’s why I’m asking you.

Now there must be loads of you out there who have encountered this before. Or have maybe read a WordPress document I have not. I’d really like your advice.

So poll time again.

Please help me out before I make an arse of myself again.

I must say here that the blogger concerned was in no way rude to me. In fact, he was a total gent the whole time. Simply pointed out something I was unaware of. He even invited me, very graciously, to take part in the challenge. I declined because it was never my intention to do so. I was just commenting in a post inspired by another’s post. I really am at a loss. The thing is, I’ve done this on a number of other occasions and now I’m wondering if I’ve been getting up people’s noses by doing so.

I know I might be behaving like a total woman in this – over complicating what others don’t see as a problem. But, bugger it, I am a woman. I do over complicate. Maybe that’s why I’m so fascinated with the idea of simplicity. OK, whole other post. But I sincerely want to do the right thing and some of you must know the answer. So spill. Please. 🙂

What is the correct protocol for inspiration born from another’s blog? Please feel free to add any other optional answer. I need to know this stuff. Maybe we all do.

75 thoughts on “Protocol”

  1. In my view, whatever is posted on the internet is open to discussion, rebuttal, reposting, and otherwise linking, with due credit, of course. I can’t imagine posting to a closed group though wordpress What would be the point?. You’ve stepped on no one’s foot that I can see.

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    1. Yeah but it kind of was my fault for not reading that it was an invited posting. Maybe I just used the wrong link and should have just linked to the guest author. Gawd, that might be it!
      But I do take your point.It is all open and out there. I have read some fab posts that have set me off on my own path but I wanted to let them know and felt sharing the link was due kudos to their idea and inspiration.
      Thanks for responding. I genuinely want to know the answer. total wummin! 😉 x

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      1. Not sure what an “invited posting” is. How were you able to read it in the first place? If you want a posting to apply only to specified people, contact them personally. I think it’s the other person’s blunder, not yours. Good that they were nice about it.

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      2. It was a guest posting where some others were invited to share thoughts on a particular subject and linked together to do so, but still for general perusal. It did say that. I just didn’t read it. Or read it and forgot in my enthusiastic commenting. I do that. 😉
        I think you helped establish earlier, though, Mikels that what I should have done was link to the blog without linking to that particular post thereby causing a pingback that looked as if I were part of it. Which I wasn’t . Gets complicated, doesn’t it? Anyway, it really was my own fault. I just wondered what others do as a courtesy in these matters. 🙂 x

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  2. We get ideas from all around us, so even if your posting about something is the same as someone else, it will be your version of it, therefore original to you. But, myself, just as a courtesy, and especially if it is very similar, and can compliment each other by that reinforcement, I ask is it ok for a linkback and usually that is taken in the context of a compliment. (Says I, who has been around forever :))

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    1. See, I’m too impatient to wait for an answer. I write quickly and I want it published as soon as I’ve done it. So I link and go. Like a fancy combined shampoo/conditioner. Gawd, if I had to wait for an answer I’d be so frustrated. I’ll look more carefully to what the link page is though in future. Shit, I’ve even requested by email whether it was ok and then couldn’t wait for an answer. I might have patience issues. Mark, you’re always raising my self issues. Why is that?! Lol. 🙂 x

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      1. I’ll let you off. I’ve probably got quite a few issues that need attention. But I’ll let you find them out for yourself!
        I have loads of patience for certain things like kids and explanations. But ask me to wait in a queue for anything and I’d rather do without. Restaurants, cinemas, you name it. Anything that wastes my time, I can’t abide. So Doctor Mark, what’s up next on the agenda? Have to wait and see. won’t we? I’ll get you back for this. 🙂 x

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      2. Just doin’ my thing…healing hearts and putting a little bandage on here and there 🙂 I suppose it’s a bit like one of your lovely poems, can bring beautiful tears to the eyes, even though that wasn’t your intention, but heals the heart just the same by having those feelings. It allows a release so that one can heal a little more and move on. So…Dr mommus…you have also been outed with your ‘gift’! 🙂

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      3. If I remember correctly, in the old days, the travelling ‘bard’ was a jack of all trades ie healer, minstrel, storyteller etc. So I would think you being a teacher, bardess, storyteller, healer etc, you may have come from a long line of that calibre. May have to check out your past lives as well, probably done this many times…seems to fit nicely! 🙂

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      4. Now I don’t believe in past lives per se. But I’m pretty fascinated by the whole space/time continuum where we may live parallel lives based on different decisions made and that we get glimpses of these through astral travel. It’s something I’ve been working on for years. But it constantly blows my mind when I try to capture it on paper. I revisit it every so often and make a fresh arse of it. Then leave it for a while. Might be time for another visit. Mibbe! 🙂 x

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      5. In my little wanders with spirit, I have been shown that ‘up there’, (so to speak), is absolutely timeless, but I feel we, as you said, poke our bits into lots of different perspectives (dimensions etc) and get to have a play in many sandpits, so to speak! No wonder we are eternal, there is some serious possibilities to cover, and I would like to change sides occasionally and maybe wear a little black short mini skirt…just to check it out (but just now the body shape I got would most seriously not do the dress any justice). Mind you, I have no urge to do any sort of change…but then maybe I need to tick that box somewhere in one of my dimensions 🙂

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      6. Is there something you want to tell me here, Mark? Lol. One little black mini skirt heading your way! No, seriously, I suppose it would be interesting to explore lots of different possibilities. I feel pretty sure I’m doing something way more exciting on a different plain. 😉 Must get back to that book. You’ve flared the spark again. Cheers. 🙂 x

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  3. I’ve not experienced this directly, but my advice would be that, if it seems like you shouldn’t link to the specific post (because it interferes with a challenge or whatever) you can still link to the main blog, and it shouldn’t be a problem. You can still give the blogger credit; you just don’t link to the specific post and cause a pingback. You could given add the title of the specific post, so someone could easily look for it.

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    1. You’re absolutely right. That’s kind of what Mikels was saying. I should have used a different link that would give credit but not caused a pingback to that particular post. This is so helpful. I will not make that mistake again. Well, I quite possibly will, ‘cos I make a lot of mistakes but it will not be this exact one. I hope. Thanks for your comment. I need this input. 🙂 x

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  4. I have no idea what the PROPER protocol is. Usually, my own posts are inspired by a variety of sources or perhaps just emotions created from a post but not directly motivated by the post itself. I have had bloggers link to a certain post if it is imperative to the point of their post (such as John did with my Sea of Desire poem), but I would not have been upset if he had not done so. But then again, it takes a lot to offend me. I’ll be interested to hear everyone’s take on this. Interesting question — thanks for sharing!!

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    1. Now that is worth sharing. I found your blog because of that post you did with John. And I’m so glad to have found it. Your honesty, especially at the start of this year, is incredible. And I love that. Although I had seen your name and gravatar about I hadn’t sought you out. But as a direct result of that link I did. See I think that’s a great way of finding who we like. Once I’d seen your work with John I knew I wanted to follow you. Thanks, Desiree for commenting. It really helps me get to grips with what’s what. I do think, in future, I’ll be a tad more careful in reading posts and making links to the proper source. Looking forward to more of your work. Inspirational. And very arousing. 🙂 x

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      1. You are too sweet and I do remember John is how you discovered me. John did ask my permission, by the way, but I have had other bloggers link to me without my permission, but they were doing it as a compliment and I certainly took it as such. Since you are aware of how my mind works, then you know I think you really shouldn’t stress over it —– keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t change a thing!!!!! 🙂

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      2. I’ll take heed of the poll….up to a point. And than I’ll do as my mum might have and say, ‘Fuck it. Can’t please everyone’. I just like to know these things and avoid unnecessary offence. Point taken though. 🙂 x

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  5. oh btw I am suing you for using my name without permissions 🙂 btw plagaism I don’t really exist not in the real sense. I brought this up at Uni, If I read a chapter on a subject then write it in my own word, it was still the original authors idea, plagaism isn’t it how we learn. 🙂 ………. I will now try and remove my tongue from my cheek as its supper time, but I am a little freaked as I am watching ‘Incidious: chapter 2’ and good job I am incontinent as my wife would think I peed out of fear….. 🙂

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      1. OH yes the voting thing, of course I did just before I put all lights on in the house as I went to get a couple of satsumas and a Pink lady (she is an apple not the apparition of a 18th century lady of the night)
        I hope you had your Tena lady surely secured before reading any more of my comments 🙂

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      2. Tena lady? Is she related to the Pink lady? I need to know this stuff, Pete before I pmsl. All good. Excellent muscle control here!
        Satsumas and a Pink lady! You know how to live btw.
        I’m partaking of a little red before my big day back at work tomorrow. Back to base school for a couple of days. It all passes so quickly! Bummer! 🙂 x

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  6. I noticed a lot of people already stated the obvious: we get our ideas from others all the time. For me, I really don’t care if someone gets an idea while reading some of my writing. I think that is cool. If they use part of my words, or use the complete post, well, then, I think it should be linked back. Point is, there are so many blogs, and since anyone can read mine, I wouldn’t really know if they used my work or not. I don’t have it copywrited and no agent so I can’t really safeguard all my writings.
    If I use a part of someone else’s blog piece, and obviously if I use exact words, I link back to them. In fact, I have a whole category on my blog for “Words of Others.” I do this a lot on awards: others do a really good job in the description of the origin of the award, or what to do with it, so I just copy and paste, giving credit to who is the writer. I have had a few people give me cred for a piece I have reblogged, and always write them back and tell them I wasn’t the original author. I always thought that came through when it was reblogged.
    So, there is my rather lame comment.

    Ordinary Love to You

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    1. Not lame at all, Rene. I wonder myself at times when people make a comment to me on a reblog as if it were mine. And I always try to say something that lets them know that it’s not mine although the reblog notification is there for all to see. Maybe they just don’t read it. Like I didn’t read properly the info on the one I linked to. What can I say? 😉 The poem was entirely my own but the sentiment of the piece written prompted it.

      What’s with ordinary love btw. Where’s my peace? Is ordinary love better? Is that ‘cos I’ve already got peace? Don’t do this to me Rene! I’ll be para now! Lol. 😀 x

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      1. Ok, I was just trying it out due to the U2 song. You are funny without even knowing it. “I’ll be para now!” Took me more than a minute to figure that one out since my sister’s last name is Para. I was like, what the fuck, who wants to be like her?

        BTW, I sent her a nice Thank you card for the gift card she sent me for x-mas. In it I gave her just a small bit of big sister advice, ‘cuz I think I am supposed to do that per some law. I told her to always listen to her intuition, more than her heart and her head. Her heart and head get her in more trouble, and that is what her friends tell her to listen to. Damn bunch of romance book readers. I have never failed to do the right thing when I listen to my intuition. She probably will blow it out of proportion, tell mum I said something or insinuated something horrible. I am so sure it will bite me in the ass. Just felt right though, so there it is.

        Peace & Love

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      2. Oh, Rene, you made me laugh out loud with that first comment. I’m still laughing as I type. And there’s a sound coming out now ‘cos I got my voice back this morning. Found it under the bed. Last night I was making some weird and wonderful hissing noises as I tried to laugh at some twooted comments on Twooter. It feels good for the laugh to be back with a bang. ‘Who the fuck wants to be like her?’ indeed. And what the feck kind of name is Para? Maybe that’s what’s up with her. It’s not intuition she needs to follow. Just needs to get her name changed by deed poll and she’ll be a new wummin. Para? I ask you!
        glad to know I’ve got my peace back. bad enough losing my voice. But your peace? Jeez I’d have been in a helluva state by tomorrow.
        So. all good now. Just off to laugh a wee bit more at your sister’s name. Sorry but it’s precious! 🙂 x

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      3. Ok, I hear ya’. I can’t really write: “Your problems all stem from the dumb last name you have chosen to hold on to.” Then she would tell mum, big scene between mum and me, and then she would do the dumbest thing since the time she got the dumb name in the first place: she would marry again. The guy she is currently with is, now get this, a guy who when they were together before had the police called on them, both, for domestic violence. The first time, the cops took him, and had him sit out 24 hours. The second time the cops took both of them. Now since I know the court system and policemen, I know that for them to have taken a woman in, especially one that had a kid at home (he was about 12-14), means she was really being a bitch. She and her lovely man were held for 48 hours, drove mum insane, so much so, she spent a ton of money she didn’t have, and went to my sister’s to ‘be with her’. OMG! She didn’t get in a car wreck, she was arrested for domestic violence. Some how that doesn’t rate a long airplane flight, and a visit of compassion from me. So, yeah, if I told her that it was her name, she would marry this asshole (why they are back together I have no clue), and then mum would be a mass of worry down here. I need mum to stay here until I get my decision from disability at least. After that, she can fly to my sister any damn time she wants. Hell, I think they should have been together along time ago: they think alike you see. So, the intuition is the best I could do without recourse. I would so get the blame if she married yo’ arsehole, simply because I told her that her name sucked. And you thought your family was strange.

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      4. When did I say my family was strange? Did I? I thought we were the model of normalcy. Hubby, wife, seven weans, two of them gay, one of each for good measure, wife occasionally goes shit shaped with depression ( but not for some time, thank god), is optimistic to the point of stupidity, thinks she owns Hugh Jackman, hubby is near to retirement but has no feckin’ grey hair (bastard) and runs lots of miles every day. And then comes back. Who said we were strange? Rene, I don’t recollect this at all but if you say I did I’ll believe you. Or did you come to that conclusion through previous conversations? Lol. 😉

        Don’t you have deed poll over there? You just say,’ My name shall now be Whatdoyoucallit.’ Sign a paper and hey presto! Your name is Whatdoyoucallit.
        If you don’t have that then better not rock the boat or you might not ever make it over here. I have to say though she does sound slightly wonky. And maybe your mum and her would be quite good for each other in a slightly wonky kind of way. So how did you end up so normal in your own bizarre way?
        I just feel we have so much in common. Tell me yours and I’ll tell you mine.:) This might be time for private chat, Rene. Watch where you’re going here. 😉 x

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      5. I was thinking the same thing, about the private conversation. My mum and sis don’t know of this blog, and I am keeping safe from them.
        I think you have called you crew a little weird, definitely not normal (who wants to be normal anyway?). Love the mashup, would be too fun to spend time with your crew.
        No, we cannot change our names that easily over here. We have to go through the courts, esplain to them why we wants a different name, that we aren’t fleeing from the government, and then we have to do a ton of paperwork to make it so after court. I would hate to have a kid and have to go through all the mess. I have done it for men before, and you know there is no reason they want it changed but to run from someone or something. I mean I have never had a guy with a weird name want to change it to something ‘normal’. No, what I got was ‘Nelson’ wanting ‘Jones’.

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      6. I see normal as a spectrum with ‘completely off your trolley’ at one end and ‘wonderfully bizarre’ in the ideal range travelling up the other end to ‘wtf! who wants to be that normal?’.
        Pity about the deed poll. Could solve all her problems if she could get rid of Para for her surname without having to resort to remarriage. Bit desperate that. I was trying to find a video link on You Tube for you last night by a Scottish comedian called Kevin Bridges who does a funny piece on what we mean by para but I couldn’t find it. Did have a lovely time though guffawing away to some of his other work!
        Definitely don’t want to be para but bizarre is cool. 🙂 x

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    2. I envy you, I have to do nothing until I have seen this MFD specialist, but the way its going sitting watching Jeremy Kyle and wondering where the guests get their bling and when innit will make it into the dictionary. I have been asked to write articles for Goths in a new magazine ‘Suicide Monthly’ It gives tips on how to look misrable while inside your singing with Joy, Q&A for female Goths like the one we got from ‘slashette’17, from Blackpool, ‘Dear Miss, Is it true that I can bleed to death if I cough a lot when I have my period’ Then we do an article on how to sterlise the implements the are really to wimpy to give themselves nose, ear, ear again, lip and other holes.

      But I turned it down, I am depressed enough with spotty teenagers telling me that they want to be like Marilyn Mason and the are practicing their music, but they maybe dead in the morning from over use of pile cream on the plooks.

      So I sit doing my crafts, making my jewellery and cards………You think I am joking 🙂
      I made this for my granddaughters birthday. 🙂
      http://mysoresoul.co.uk/?attachment_id=990

      “Wow Pete I didn’t know you was so talented…..”

      blush……”Thanks, I do try”

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      1. Those are precious, Pete. You are talented. I love fairies. She’ll be delighted with them. I love all sorts of crafts but I’ve never tried my hand at jewellery making. And it’s been a while since I’ve done any at all. Bit of a dabbler, you know? 😉 I’ve had a couple of hand made pieces from art students that my sister and one of my sons knows. It’s always a lovely gift to receive.
        I think you’re definitely safer sticking with crafts than becoming agony aunt to the Goths. Dangerous territory with the advice you might offer! Especially if you’re watching Jeremy Kyle. I can’t have him on in the same room as me. And it’s not just because of his guests. It all blows my mind a bit when I’ve seen it. Innit? Lol.
        I hope all goes well with the specialist. What does MFD stand for? At first I thought it might have been motherf****** doctor. Then I remembered you’re not American. I looked it up but there are an amazing number of definitions for the acronym and I can’t see one that would fit. 😉 x

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  7. oh btw Tena Lady…… thats the great great granddaughter of the18th century prostitute Pink lady, but she fell out the ugly tree and hit all the branches on the way down as well as being beaten by a couple of enraged grey squirrels with squirrel size baseball bats ( the reds are more placid and give out bibles and blesses you) Any way she is so ugly thats all she can charge……………..a tenner……………

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    1. Thank you, would I call you Tena Lady, you are worth much more than a tenner. I wrote about MFD not to be confused with MDF, I will have to be careful some idiot may try and use me as a internal partion wall.
      Anyway hope you are ok today with the first day back 🙂 Below is a link to a post I did the other day and you will see what MFD IS 🙂
      http://mysoresoul.co.uk/happy-2014-the-pain-within/

      Its 10 am better shift my arse, takes me nearly an hour to get showered and dressed lol, worse than a woman hahaha…… Have a good day. 🙂

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      1. I tried to leave a comment on your page, Pete but I got some message saying this email exists. MFD and the level of pain you’re in sound appalling. I couldn’t cope with toothache incessantly let alone overall body pain. I hope 2014 brings better health and the continued strength to cope with what is ongoing.
        First day back was fine although I am shattered now. 😉 x

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      2. Glad your first day back was fine 🙂 I think I will have to sort out the comment thing people leave me comments ok and then the next person can’t.
        Yes the pain does get a bit like hell especially during the night even more so when it wakes me up, but there isn’t anything I can do about it. The patches I have are dangerous and they come under a controlled drug and I have to sign for them separately and they are kept in a locked cabinet. I have had to have a few courses of morphine patches before moving on to these other wise they can stop you from breathing……they work and that all that matters 🙂

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      3. Half way through the week now, Pete and it’s been fine.
        I think if you need the pain killers that’s what you go with. What else can you do if you’re body is crying out? I hope you get some relief. x

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    1. That’s what I think. I’ll just have to make sure I check what I’m linking to. Blogging can be a bit of a minefield when you’re an arse at times. 😉 I find. 🙂 x

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  8. I can’t speak to this particular situation because it sounds like a rare situation. But, as a general proposition, I believe it’s a great compliment to any blogger to have someone link back to a post they’ve shared on the World Wide Web. Also, every blogger on WordPress has the ability to block unapproved pingbacks. It’s a setting on the dashboard. All that being the case, I would suggest that you keep following what your heart tells you is the polite thing to do. And remember Bill Cosby’s words, “I don’t know the key to success. But I know the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” Have a beautiful week! Sloan

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    1. That sounds like a polite variation on my mum’s advice of old. 🙂 All the answers have been really helpful. I know now what I did wrong in linking to the exact URL used. I should have read it more carefully. I will still always give credit where I think it’s due but I will be more careful in future to see what kind of posting it is. Have a lovely week too and thanks for your input. It really all has been most helpful. 🙂 x

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  9. What a cunnundrum… 🙂 Sometimes I read posts and bingo – why didn’t I think of that – how clever. Sometimes I shall do a post roughly around the same subject, if I do however in the post I write I put I was reading ‘blagh blaghs’ blog and this sprang to mind’ a case of 2 great minds thinking alike perhaps? 🙂 don’t sweat it too much lovely. xx

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    1. I’m not sweating it now. Everyone has been so helpful. And I think I know now that my error was in the link I used. I tend to over think things. But I wanted clarification on what others thought was the proper way to go. How British of me! Thanks, Jen. I’m thinking of you linking to one of mine before through a commentary we had going. I was dead chuffed. 🙂 x

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  10. I clicked on Option 2 as not because it’s from the Internet, you can just do anything with what you have found. But I am only basing on the exact question you posted at the end, and with that in mind, I would also like to say that it should depend on what you have written down and what info you’ve used, how correct you have interpreted someone’s words regardless of how much you agree or disagree, how much of it you are using…

    Asking permission and explaining what your writing will entail can help make things clear for both parties. This may also help you avoid any accusations of plagiarism or copyright infringement and Intellectual Property Rights infringement. Anyone’s work or idea, when posted online, is considered published. We cannot simply assume one won’t mind us taking it and getting credit no matter how much we try to explain it’s not ours.

    But if you’re absolutely sure there is no danger of anyone taking offense, it really is advisable and very good practice to do Option 1.

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    1. The exact scenario is simply that someone did a post I really enjoyed and it set off my own train of thought on ‘What Women Want’ and I started to comment in the box. It began to take the form of a lengthy poem and I thought it was too long for a comment plus I rather liked my own poem. I posted the poem – my work – on my blog but linked to the original post as they had sparked my own thoughts on the subject. But I did link to a page that I should, on hindsight, not have linked to as the link was for a guest challenge. So it may have looked like I was muscling in. I should have been more attentive to the link I was using, for sure. I just wanted to give credit to the author for inspiring my own thoughts on the subject.
      This instance left me wondering whether I was doing the right thing by ever linking without first asking permission to do so. I’ve always taken it as a great compliment if someone does so with mine. I would have a fit if someone pinched my work and I would never dream of doing that to another. But I’ve no problem with my work inspiring another’s thoughts.
      This was nothing like copyright infringement. Simply, I linked where I had obviously no business to do so given that it was a guest post. What I know I’ve learned from this is that I will check the URL to ensure that links are appropriate. Entirely my own fault on retrospect. Live and learn. 🙂 x

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      1. In that case, I think it’s a compliment to them/him/her. It’s a poem you wrote, not their poem. In that case, I would choose Option1 🙂 It’s not even super-required to link to them but for your own readers’ info, that would be right to link. 😀

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      2. Thanks for all your input. It’s been really helpful. I feel I have a better idea now of where I went wrong with the linking. And hopefully know what to do now. 🙂 x

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  11. Don’t worry too much – credit the blogger and provide a link to their site and drp them an email to say what you have done. Nobody will take offence and will probably be flattered!

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    1. Everybody has their ways of going about this. And they all seem perfectly reasonable to me. As I’ve said in previous comments I think I’ll check out the direct link more carefully. But I’ll probably continue with the way I’ve been going based on what is coming through. Thanks. 🙂 x

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  12. I link back too! I once joined a challenge and only half-way through did I realize that the people in the challenge all knew one another off and online I had just jumped right in! They were really nice though. You can always share links on my blog and you don’t need permission to link to me just do it.

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  13. I’m still confused as to why this was a problem. Happy he was gentlemanly about it to you but I don’t understand why it was a problem in the first place for you to 1. to link to him because he inspired you 2. why you linking to him for inspiration meant that you were participating in a link-up and 3. why would that have been a problem? Isn’t this blogging thing for fun? Link-ups aren’t exclusive,right? I believe we should always respect each other’s privacy, be polite and give credit where credit is due. I have only been blogging 9 months-ish regularly so I will be interested in what you learn, maybe I’m totally confused on it all too.

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    1. I struggled with these points myself. We live and learn. And I think I’ve learned a few things from this. Whether I put them into practise remains to be seen. 😉 Thanks, Kerry for saying your piece. And I agree with your sentiments. We’ll see how the poll goes. 🙂 x

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  14. Wow. All this has my head spinning. I’ll link if I use a direct quote, but I read so many blogs that half the time, by the time I get around to writing my own blog, I don’t even remember where an idea has some from! On the other hand, I do try to link to folks on at least a quarter of my blogs just to give some tithe to the readership blessings I have. I think it all evens out in the end.

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  15. Hi again,
    I think Sloan had some sage advice. You can’t please everyone, all the time.

    Here’s an original idea – just be your own, lovely self, and anyone who doesn’t like it can go read a newspaper or watch the telly! Meanwhile, you’ll have developed a legion of followers who love what you write because they know it comes from your heart. The times you do step on someone’s toes, by the very nature of stepping on their toes you’ll find you are also close enough to give them a quick peck on the cheek, a smile and say “ooops, sorry” and I’ll bet they’ll love you even more!

    And don’t worry about the rest! If they want to stand on protocol, they’ll find it’s a very low soapbox with a very small auditorium around it on WordPress!

    Good luck, and we all look forward to more of your heart on our screens!
    Ray

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    1. Aw, thank you for such sweet words. I just wanted to be sure I wasn’t treading unnecessarily on toes if there was a better way of going about it. I think I’m good with all the advice I’ve received. And words such as yours are so uplifting. Thank you. 🙂 x

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