Coming Out Of The Closet. Courtesy of Suzie.

When I started blogging 7 months ago I was entirely anonymous and felt fairly free in saying pretty much anything. Although I would never identify specific people. Too much of the teacher and private person in me for that.

As time has gone on and I have felt more comfortable within the community and in my writing and strength of feelings on certain subjects I have opened up more about myself but it does give me some concerns.

The more I have revealed of myself the greater the likelihood that I will be discovered and might get into trouble for ‘swearing’ or touching on certain subjects and being identified as a teacher by specific name.

The odd thing is I’m at the point where I don’t give a shit. I’ve been toying with the idea of going for promotion in a particular school and have to make my mind up within the next few days. I then began to think of what impact my blog and posts would have on my prospects and current position if they were connected. And, do you know what? Right at this moment in time I would rather forego promotion and even my job than be shut up.

Now, I’ve just turned 53, Suzie, and you’re just a young thing with your whole career ahead of you so, yes, I would worry more had I been doing this years ago. Now I feel like nothing can shut me up and I need to say what is strong within me. It’s not that I can afford to lose my job. But I feel now that writing and expressing and communication on many levels have become more important and I can’t live another moment, let alone years, not being out here speaking my truths.

Don’t get me wrong, I still think twice about what I post. I review and consider content and ‘flavour’. But, ultimately, I think, see, write and post.

Your post, Suzie, has come at an exact moment of rightness for me because I tonight posted something that was born of an awful day and I thought to myself, ‘Folk won’t like this. Wee Mrs. Sunshine is having an off day.’ But that’s life and it’s real.

You’re real to me, Suzie as are so many of the people I have ‘met’ here. There is a reason why we are blogging. What I am coming to realise is that no matter the blogger, anonymous or otherwise, there is a multitude of people who NEED to communicate to the world. I don’t know all the whys and wherefores of this. But it is a powerfully strong urge and it is important to those doing it. And, I think, to those reading.

It does feel to me like a massive reaching out of hands and minds and souls. People being prepared, even shyly, to open up to others and reveal their truths And, in the process, help each other realise that we are not alone in our experiences and our thoughts and doubts.

There is a world of feeling and understanding and insights to be gained just from the ‘mere’ act of sharing and reading.

I could no more let this go than fly. Although, I do think I can fly anyway. In fact, let me elaborate on that.

I always thought I could fly. Right up until I was in my twenties! If only I could find the way. Then I realised I was being foolish. I stopped believing I could. Although I still wanted to. Now I feel I can again. And that, to me, is writing. If I were to censor too much I would cut my wings. I can’t do that again.

Now I will still do videos ‘incognito’ ‘cos that has as much to do with acting the post as anything else. That and some days I look and feel like shit. And I just want to get the thing done. But, in the immortal words of Meryl Streep, in Mamma Mia!….’for one time and one time only…….

….for those of you who know me a bit and for those of you who know me well or not at all.

My name is Anne-Marie Hurley.

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I am a mother, wife, daughter, sister, aunt, niece, godparent, cousin, teacher, etc, etc, etc. And I am a blogger. Bloggers Anonymous!

But firstly, I am spirit.

Then human.

Then woman.

And if I can’t speak my truths of life as how I see and think and feel then I can’t fly. And I won’t accept that again.

If the teaching profession cannot accept that their teachers are people then it does not deserve to be called education. We all bring ourselves to the job. I am not a pervert. I am not a criminal. But I have thoughts and feelings that I am entitled to express should anyone wish to read them. I will always keep private those things that I feel deserve to be kept thus. Those things I am not privileged to reveal because they concern others and would mar confidences. But, as for the rest, my ‘me-ness’, it’s going out there. Because I will fly freely. I will fall. But, by the rights of all ‘to be’, I will rise again.

I’ve had a shitty day. But now I feel so much better. Thanks, Suzie. YOUR honesty and transparency have convinced me that, for me, right now, there is no other way. Thank you.

 

And, further to the note of honesty, I am, within the next week or so, going to do an award post that ‘honours’ those who speak out on sexuality and sensuality and are unafraid to do so. We deem certain subjects to be taboo. And yet they are part of all of our lives. We may couch our feelings in poems or pictures or stories but we feel and we think and we are. Shame and judgement does not or should not come into it. I’ll get working on that one. I have no idea yet whether the awards given to me may be used for sex and sensuality but I’m pretty sure I can work around that. 🙂

161 thoughts on “Coming Out Of The Closet. Courtesy of Suzie.”

  1. Great to meet you, Anne-Marie – and good for you! Brave lady, you! Totally with you on this one. I am quite sure, since I have blogged as me from the start, that ex colleagues have read my pieces with pursed lips and utter horror in their hearts. No change there, then: I had exactly that effect upon the blighters when I was still teaching! Sod it, I say. You only pass this way once; why stifle yourself? xxx

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    1. You know, Ali, I have admired your honesty and forthrightness in so many of your posts. You’ve not had an easy travail and yet you get it out there and go for it. Ballsy!
      I will follow all my known and unknown faces because their hearts are true to me. And the image does not and never has mattered.
      For me it matters because I have hidden too long behind my own self and anonymity. I have been shy of my own image. Gradually, it has changed by being here. Gradually, I’ve felt that I really no longer want to hide. And tonight I feel utterly liberated!
      A couple of hours ago I could have crawled under a rock and then piled a few more on top. That sort of day! But, Suzie was there with her own particular brand of her and she just pressed all the right buttons for me.
      So, Ali, great to meet you too.
      I won’t be posting more pics of me ‘cos some days I do look and feel like shit and I want to be able to post every day not just on my ‘good’ days. Lol. That and I don’t take pics per se. But I’m out and I’m proud! As all the best gay folk say. I’m not gay by the way. Well, maybe a little bit. 😉 But I think that’s a whole other post. And maybe some genetics thrown in. And a couple of erotic pics. No. Joking!
      Just out and ok with it.
      Then back to normal office hours. And a freer heart.
      Hope you’re still hugging that boy of yours with a freer heart. 🙂 x

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      1. What a wonderfully liberated, and liberating response, Anne-Marie: your whole voice sounds freer, as if pinioned wings have been unfurled. Lovely photo, by the way – and, given that I have just turned fifty-six, you look incredibly young!
        Yes, I hug my lovely boy as often as he’ll allow, bless him! xxx

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      2. Pinioned wings unfurled. And drying out ready for flight as we speak. Hey, some days are better than others. I wasn’t going to pick an ugly one!
        Just mind he’s the lucky one too. 🙂 x

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  2. It is so nice to meet you, Anne-Marie!! I actually posted today about becoming more real to those in the blogging world. Must be something in the spiritual waters around here!!! Congratulations and I’m thrilled to hear you ROOAARRR!! 😉

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    1. I’ll be roaring right back at you in the next week or so, Mrs Sensuality! For you are top of my list along with one or two others who speak and are not afraid to do so on matters that concern us all. Might go for it a wee bit more myself shortly. 😉 It bugs me big time that sex and sensuality are so hidden and deemed ‘wrong’ when it makes up all of us to some degree or other. You rock, missus, and don’t forget it. Liberation is on! And you are one of the leaders. Which award would you like btw. Got quite a few to give away. What have you not got? Then you can make a set. I’m thinking ‘sunshine’. 🙂 x

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      1. I don’t think folks associate “sunshine” with me — more like morbid darkness or salacious fantasies!! 😉 I do tend to be a bit outspoken — but being meek doesn’t accomplish much in this life. I loved your post and I have found also that the older I get — the less I really care what anyone else thinks. And there is certainly a double standard when it comes to sex and how women are expected to express themselves. 🙂 I look forward to reading your racy pieces. Go for it and HAVE FUN!!!!

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      2. I might need to work myself up to that one, as it were!
        And I think you are sunshine. You illuminate so that does it for me.
        But I’ll let you choose your own award. I might even create one called ‘liberation’! 🙂 x

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    1. Suzie, I don’t deserve a reblog. You deserve a medal. You have just achieved what no one else has. Timely, yes. But, my god, so wonderfully liberating. I can’t thank you or praise you enough. You have always just been there when I needed you to climb out of the abyss. You have utterly excelled yourself tonight. The drinks are on me, girlfriend! 🙂 x

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  3. Anne-Marie, once you let me use your real name, I thought your days of hiding might be over. It’s kind of sad that you don’t feel you can be honest without putting your job at risk. You are not arguing for harming anyone, or saying hateful things or trying to abolish any important traditions. I don’t think most kids are all that shocked by adults using curse words on their own time, even though they understand they are not appropriate in school. Kids can distinguish.

    I’m sorry to hear you had a bad day. Seems to be a lot of that going around lately. I’m glad to see a pic of you, although I actually did see one on facebook. I can’t remember why, but you put up a link that took me there.

    I decided not to be anonymous with some reservations, and I’m a bit vague about my exact physical location, but I want to be a published writer. I’m working my way there. And I think you are, too. 🙂 Cheers, Brenda

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    1. You have no idea, Brenda. There are people who have lost their jobs for posting what was deemed ‘inappropriate’ on social networking sites.
      You’re absolutely right in what you say. I am not preaching heresy or sedition. Well, maybe a little bit of sedition. But I’m expressing me. I think that’s why I’m getting so pissed at the whole NSA extravaganza. If they want to know what I think or you think or anyone thinks….ASK. Don’t spy. The truth is out there as somebody said but I can’t remember who. 🙂
      The kids in some of the schools I’m in know more swear words than me. So do my own kids for that matter. But we are judged as ‘a middle-class profession with standards to uphold’. And it’s a crock. We are people. Just that. And nothing more. If we want change for the better we have to be honest and I’m done with hiding my honesty among only those I know. I’m me. An optimistic, sensual depressive with spiritual reality and a tendency to fly! What’s wrong with that? Don’t tell me. I don’t want to know. Lol. 🙂 x

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      1. And a romantic capable of love, laughter and sense, all in one sentence. I quite like you, and I would trust you with my kids. I can’t imagine someone who wouldn’t. I’m glad you feel empowered and thoroughly you. Whew, I visited Suzie, and dang she has a lot of comments! I hadn’t encountered her blog before, but you’re right, she very sensible. 🙂 I am proud of you here Anne-Marie, and I’m pleased to meet the wizard behind the all-seeing eye. 🙂

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      2. I think we’re all much the same when it comes to those things we hold closest to our chests. We are all private to some degree. But we are all human. And we needs must express that and discover that so many feel as we do. In those areas where we differ….vive la difference! It makes the world go round. And interesting.
        Suzie is just lovely. Just totally lovely. Like you. There’s magic in that. It reaches out and touches. And obviously has effect. That’s what this place can do. What sharing stories and poems and pictures and thoughts can do. Isn’t it truly awesome?!
        The world opens up and those who want to touch, touch. Those who need to feel, feel. And it’s just bloody amazing. I’m on such a high. If you hadn’t guessed. 😉
        Do follow Suzie now that you have found her. She is just so real. x

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      1. I’m lost in the land of the endless rehab, and paying through the nose. I’m not surprised a whole week is going in a puff of paster dust. Sigh. Only a few more days now. Where have I heard that before?

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      2. I won’t even tell you my horror story of the builders from hell. If you can finish in less than five years consider yourself blessed. I hope it’s all done and dusted as soon as possible to let life get back to normal. x

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      3. Yep, you’ll have to get it out sooner or later. My advice, write the first draft. Wait a week, then write a new one, not looking at the old. See which you prefer. Works for me when I’m raging. Keeps the white hots private.

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      4. I did write it down, or attempt to, when I was white hot with anger but I couldn’t even finish it. I kept spitting blood and promising all sorts of retribution. Then I had to let it go. I might revisit it some time now that the real anger has gone. But they should have been whiplashed. Just sayin’. 😉 x

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  4. what a post, well done. Deciding to speak out about what you believe in and top put it out on the internet is difficult at first but the feeling of empowerment is wonderful, so all I can say is carry on!
    Oh I hope you don’t mind, but I’ll be re-blogging this as an example for others to follow

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    1. I’m thrilled you want to reblog. I consider it the highest compliment possible.
      Empowerment is right. I feel fantastic. I wish to feck I’d felt this before. If only I’d known. My inherent honesty has therefore only ever been partial insofar as I could not let go. Tonight changes that for me. Thank you so much for your lovely words of encouragement. They mean so much. 🙂 x

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  5. Reblogged this on Let me tell U a story and commented:
    if there was ever a post about the merits of honest self expression, this is it. I advise all visitors to this blog to read it, embrace it, and follow ittothe full

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  6. I bow to thee oh brave lady, for a truth cannot be bought, sold or enslaved. And your truth of being spirit, human and woman is that understanding of being able to love you…for exactly who you are! And once understood, you are free…totally, unconditionally free! I welcome you to that understanding and bid you keep following your heart, for it will now begin to attract to you the beauty that life does bring and the love you so deserve. Hail, mommus! Hail! Namaste

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    1. If I were truly brave, Mark, I would have done it before now…..while I still felt afraid. The time is just right. And that’s what makes it awesome for me. I never thought….I never knew….that beginning here would reveal me to myself let alone others. And I’m so grateful to all those I read who have led me to this point. I feel privileged. Thank you for understanding. You are one of the ones who have assisted my journey. x

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      1. Oh, you were very brave mommus, for now is the right time to stand in your truth. You have come to that understanding and realised it’s significance for you. Not an easy thing to do at any time. But all the more significant because you have done it, many ponder and never do it. And I thank you for your lovely comment, just as I am glad to have shared your journey…it has been fun filled, full of laughter, much love and the odd serious bit to give it challenge…but most of all, it has been a mommus journey, and I am proud to have been a part of that. Thank you! Namaste

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      2. I want to cry now. This has been a really moving and special night for me. Those who have helped me along the way are like kin. Sometimes more than the real ones. There is understanding and fellowship and spiritual awareness that takes my breath away. Truly, thank you, Mark, for your presence here and in my life. x

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  7. “There are people who have lost their jobs for posting what was deemed ‘inappropriate’ on social networking sites.”

    This is why I use a pseudonym and why no one at my job will EVER have my Facebook or Twitter no matter how much I want to trust them…. what’s done off the clock is no one’s business but mine and mine alone.

    Well met, Anne-Marie, and keep on writing!!!

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    1. I hear you. Don’t have a life. Don’t be real. Don’t ……anything. But a job’s a job and we’ve got to remember that. I’m just maybe at that age or stage. Hope it doesn’t come back to bite me on the arse nevertheless! 🙂 x

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  8. This is one of the most beautiful expressions of self I have ever seen, for one teensy moment there I forgot about flesh and bone and could see you clearly in your pure form. A wonderful example to us all.

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    1. What a beautiful comment. I do feel a bit raw and exposed, slightly! But that’s because this was always going to be a difficult thing for me to do. But I’m so glad I have. I do want to communicate from essence first and humanity and womanhood. As a mother, as a person, as all the roles I play. As we all do. I feel now that I might be better able to do that with greater honesty. And that’s very important to me. Thank you for your wonderful comment. I am humbled that so many feel my truth because I think it is a common truth. We feel because we understand where the other person is coming from. It fills me to know that you felt my soul. Many thanks and blessings on your insight. x

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  9. it is so nice to meet you anne-marie. like you, i am a teacher, and i’ve told them i blog, as well as my family and friends who are all involved in stories in my blog from time to time. i always ask people i know if they mind if i include them, before doing so, but have never been told no, i just don’t use their names. it is empowering for me to have my picture and name out there, as i feel i get to know my readers better somehow, and you are so right, it is a strong desire to reach out to the world, and to hear back at times, that keeps us blogging. great post ) beth

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    1. I admire that you were able to do that from the get go. I just never could. Part of me, I suppose. But you’re absolutely right. I do feel empowered. Like a weight lifted. But one of my own making. Just no more. Thanks for your feedback. It’s so lovely to feel the presence of so many others. x

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  10. Now I can call you Anne-Marie 🙂 or perhaps AM? Very brave post, I salute you and your courage. I hold back a little still, particularly in what I may wish to write. I don’t have a reason, perhaps if my girls read it. Then again I’m 58 they are 27 and 30…. I also have to watch content due to my new position/ job in life, but I’m ok with that. You have found yourself, so continue being strong and writing what you want. We can only hope with what we do write that we touch lives in a good way, or give rise to thoughts. Nice to finally meet you AM 🙂 x

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    1. I get called both. And Anna. And various other names I won’t go into. 😉 I won’t compromise those I love or feel loyalty to or professional ethics. But as for the rest of me. Now is the time. You can call me whatever. I answer to them all. 🙂 x

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  11. Lovely to meet you- again- Anne-Marie. I, too, have considered coming out from behind the pseudonym- and the time may be coming sooner rather than later. I chose to blog under anther persona not because of my current job, but due to a stubborn refusal to give up certain aspirations. I’m no longer sure that those particular aspirations represent the person I now am… will see what the next while brings.
    Thank you for your bravery- and your always inspirational words!

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    1. Thank you, ‘Cole’. I just think of you as Cole. No matter who feels they want to or not makes no difference to me. I read the words first, last and always.
      For me, it was obviously something of an issue….something I needed to get over, not just because of my job but because I’ve always felt a bit shy about me and being out there. That’s why it matters to me. We all come to whatever as we need to. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me. So many here, yourself included, have led me to this moment and I am truly grateful. Whatever you decide to do will be right for you when you feel it. I realise that now and am thankful that, for me, tonight was the night. In the words of Mel Gibson aka William Wallace, ‘Freedom!’ 🙂 x

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  12. Hello Anne-Marie,
    Good for you! We are all human and sometimes that means we face less than perfect days on occasion. Your honesty is refreshing.

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    1. Thank you so much. Truly, my days are filled in various measure of imperfection and striving for the apparently unattainable goal. But a worthy journey no less for us all. x

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      1. So incredibly proud of you my beautiful big sister. This was indeed exactly the right time to ‘come out’. Always be you – truthful, compassionate, loving, fun, witty and downright amazing. I am one very blessed sister. XxxxxX

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  13. So nice to meet you Anne-Marie. I never knew what to call you before based on Scottishmomus, other than friend of course. Now both apply. So glad you stepped forward into the light. Although I spend a bit more time in the shadows, perhaps now we will cross paths in both locations. Keep Inspiring.

    John

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  14. We should all have a venue(s) to express ourselves freely. Sure, there are places where some things are not appropriate, but your own personal blog is not one of them. Say what you want, speak as you will. Those who like you the way you are will keep reading while the others will fade away. Good for you.

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  15. Brilliant post.

    There is a beautiful honesty in your blog.

    I loved it to bits.

    Such happy realizations for you and inspiration for the rest of us 🙂

    Great to have stumbled upon your blog 😀

    Would love a feedback from you on my blog about Minimalism and Simplicity 🙂

    Keep in touch. Cheers! 😀

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    1. Thank you for your lovely positive comment. I will definitely check out your blog. I did a post a while ago on simplicity. It’s one of those things I think we don’t value enough. The world would be such an easier place to live in. Give me a wee while to catch up on comments and I’ll be over in the next couple of days. 🙂 x

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  16. Nice to meet you, Anne-Marie Hurley. Remember that the truth will set you free, but first it may piss you or someone else off. C’est la vie!

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  17. It’s such a joy and honour to formally meet you, my dearest Anne-Marie. I am Shirley Maya Tan, your soul sister in Malaysia. And I am applauding your “stance”. If you were here in Kuala Lumpur, I’d be throwing you a party to celebrate. Can you feel it, my soul sister? Can you hear it? The Universe and the stars are giving you a standing ovation. Hugs and love x

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  18. Why, hello, Anne-Marie!!! Wow, first the video, now the big reveal! CONGRATS!!!! 🙂

    Well, there are reasons why people prefer to be anonymous bloggers and some of the really valid ones are yours. But I think if you’re just saying your opinions and being yourself without hurting anyone, why not? We are old and wise enough to know our limits.

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    1. Lol. The videos were somewhat incognito for the purposes of ‘acting’ the part. And I was shy of the reveal! But no more. You’re right though. We will say what we are comfortable with saying and in ways that reflect who we are. Old and wise enough indeed. 🙂 x

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      1. Hey, Anne-Marie! I just joined this challenge yesterday: Blogging from A to Z April Challenge. Thought I’d give you a heads-up.

        I’m joining not because of the potential increase in hits (although that would be great compensation), but I want to make myself more prolific 🙂 I’m going to start writing now and kind of have an idea already for some of the letters…Cheers!

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  19. I, as dearanonymousfriend, have struggled about revealing who I am in my blog. Over the past couple years there have been some people who have found out who I am and I am fine with that. Love this post! Saw your blog on Suzie’s blog (she’s so great), and was going to check you out because of your blog name. My son in law calls me Mommas and when I saw your blog name i knew I had to visit. I will be back! DAF

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    1. Suzie is marvellous. She’s been there to cheer me up on so many occasions without even realising it. As far as revealing goes, I think we do what we are comfortable with for ourselves and that’s as it should be. I just reached a point for me where I feel I needed to stop hiding behind myself. It’s been an issue of mine. And I hope that I’ve dealt with it some through this. I don’t imagine I’m going to change my personality and my innate sense of privacy. And I wouldn’t really want to. They are part of me. But the putting of a face to myself outwith my normal circle of family and friends is something I’ve always struggled with. Like I didn’t want to be known. It’s still a bit vague for me in analysing. I just know that this feels comfortable where before it didn’t.
      The momus part of my blog name was from my brother who set up my blog. A minor Greek god apparently. I had never heard of him before although I love all the Greeek legends. He was related to writing and my brother thought it was apt. So you’re a Mommas too! 🙂 x

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      1. I received my mommas only because my son in law wanted to give me a special name, so he tied mom into the last three letters of my last name… thus, Mommas…. I in turn call him sonard, son with the last three letters of his last name. Great post and I look forward to reading more.

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      2. We have known our son in law since he was 9 years old. He is 13 years older than our daughter, our families have been close friends. It was a wonderful love story and it is fun for the two families to truely be one family now.

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      3. Oh, that’s so amazing. I’d love to hear the ins and outs of how that came about. My hubby is almost nine years older than me and our kids like to go back to the ‘beginning’ before we met and say, ‘When you were just born dad was in Primary 5 and when you were starting primary school dad was already at secondary school. And when you were 12 dad was 21 ! And that’s just creepy!’ We met when I was nineteen but didn’t go out till much later. We were too busy living our respective lives, paths missing constantly. And then. Wham! We caught up. As soon as you said the ages and the family connection I thought, Jane Austen’s ‘Pride and Prejudice’. So romantic. Amazing how it all works out. I don’t know if you’ve done a post on that but I’d love to read it. I enjoy a romance and one that has its roots in the unexpected. Or unusual. See if they’ll agree to it! It would make a great post. 🙂 x

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  20. Hi Anne-Marie. I have admired your eye since I began following your blog 🙂 . There is always a question once we put fingers to keyboard on how much we reveal. I don’t think that question ever really goes away for many reasons. However, there is something liberating in being authentic. Aren’t we all either a God or Goddess? A nice thought. Looking forward to reading much more.
    Blessings
    Susan x

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    1. That is a lovely thought. All of us sharing the godly experience. Part of the creative whole. I’ll still monitor what I publish insofar as there are other people to be considered and confidences that need to be kept. But I do feel better for not being so shy about myself and just going for it. I probably won’t make any difference to anyone else. But it has to me.Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. God bless. x

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  21. Just one small observation here. I believe if you lived and taught in America, you would probably be scrutinized for your blog postings, especially if the political machine which runs in schools and around them had a disliking for you. You are very fortunate you live where you do. I am glad you feel like you are in a safe environment and can share yourself freely. I still have things which needs some light of day, but am still looking for the keys to all the doors. I think one is actually welded shut.

    Peace & Love

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    1. I wish you had a ‘follow by email’ button so I could get your postings immediately. I just put one on my blog, and a few bloggers I follow have them. This way I don’t have to go through the whole reader, possibly missing some of my favorites if I am in a hurry.

      Peace & Love

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      1. I thought I had one. Or it says in my widget thingy that I do. But all it shows in my home page is a followers number which wasn’t what I was choosing. I tried again but it still just comes up as a followers number. I don’t get it. Maybe I’m missing something but I followed all the ‘rules’ and nope it doesn’t show. I’ll check it out further. Although I don’t really know what I’m looking for now if the one that says it is, isn’t. If you know what I mean. Lol. 😉 x

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    2. Jeez! What a thought! For all I know they might be. But what has occurred in the past is that children or parents have identified teachers and disapproved of their words or actions and then reported them.
      As I said though in my post I really am past caring. I don’t preach nastiness and I am entitled to opinions like everyone else. So if it’s seen it’s seen. Just the way I feel now.
      I’m beginning to wonder what else I need to shed light on for myself. 😉 x

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  22. I love this post Anne-Marie! So beautiful and heartfelt and made me tear up thinking of how my blogging journey has unfolded. From starting it somewhat anonymously not even knowing if I wanted people to read it to diving head first and giving to it passionately, exposing myself and it feels damn good! Seeing your picture makes me smile..such a beauty and someone who I truly consider a friend. Xo

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  23. Well HELLO, my Scottish friend…bravo!! now I can openly invite you down to Hurley’s Pub in Montreal on your trip here and we have a pint or two and when the fiddlers take their break, you can give it a read of your lovely poems:) Does this sound like a plan, or what? Lovely, brave post, my dear, big hugs to you, Anne-Marie, Oliana xx

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    1. Yes, imagine them naming a pub after me! 😉 And fiddlers! I’d just love that. A wee ceilidh and a sing-song. Couple of jars. Sounds like a great night out. 🙂 x

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  24. What a fantastic post, thank you so much for writing it and putting it out for everyone to read! And thanks for saying outloud some of the things I’ve been thinking as I start out on this blogging adventure that we’re all on! I’ve written in private in my diaries since I was knee high and always loved putting pen to paper. The joy that blogging brings is fantastic and I’m so glad you’ve found it and share it! Keep up teh great work! Lizzie :o)

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    1. Thank you so much, Lizzie for such a lovely comment. I’m still loving the whole experience. Like you, I’ve written since forever but now I have an avenue for much of it. I’m sure you’ll love it just as much. 🙂 x

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  25. I’m SOOOOO happy for you:) I’m happy that you have decided to live your life your own way. Congratulations. I think it’s terrible that jobs, friends, family, whatever, are held over the heads of people as a form of CONTROL. The status quo used things like that to control the behavior and choices that people make. You are making a difference. And I like that you said that if you fall, you’ll just get up again and I know that you have just started a whole new life and I hope that you are happy and joyful because of it. In this case, “today is the first day of the rest of your life, ” is actually true…LOL May wonderful things be yours.

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    1. Thank you so much. It felt so liberating to do. And I’m still happy I did. I suppose it just felt right. And I hate the idea of being controlled.
      Better get a move on now with the rest of my life. 🙂
      And thank you for your lovely wishes. May wonderful things be yours too. Such a lovely sentiment.x

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  26. YES! I totally get this. I’ve always used my real name blogging (because it was originally supposed to be a blog all about writing, and when I EFFING FINALLY PUBLISH SOMEDAY GOD WILLING, I wanted my blog to be part of my platform), but I was very cloaked in the beginning in regards to what I wrote. Some of the things I’ve written recently, I would’ve NEVER considered writing a year ago. As I got more comfortable with the community – and my voice started evolving – the blog took shape. I suppose it’ll always be evolving, but I’ve definitely found and am comfortable with my voice.

    Nice to meet you, Anne-Marie. You rock my socks off.

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    1. Thanks, Beth. Good to meet you too. Your blog is so natural it’s hard to believe you ever felt constrained. But then I’ve still to delve into your earlier stuff. It is very liberating to not give a monkey’s! Or at least to feel relaxed enough to go for it. I still love it. God willing on the book front! 🙂 x

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  27. Always a delight to read you when you speak your mind, Annie. And some day, you and I can chat over a pint in Montreal at Hurley`s:) I`ve come pretty clean on Tracesofthesoul as well…you are refreshing to read and entertaining to say the least at times;) hugs xx Oliana aka Cheryl-Lynn (oh yeah, I have chosen Tournesol as a nom de plume for Japanese poetry…just because I can:P)

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    1. Thank you, Oliana-Cheryl. 🙂 This coming out of the clost malarkey is really catching on. 😉 I like the name you have chosen for your poetry. Tournesol – it has a ring to it.
      I’ll get to Hurley’s eventually. 🙂 x

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      1. I entered Nano this year. I didn’t even know what it was last year! I’m 31,000 words in at day 11 – well chuffed. 🙂 I should finish and hoping for an intelligible draft before the 30th. It feels mad. But right. 🙂

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      2. My class are a breeze. Great kids – every one of them – even the wee buggers! Three of mine have flown the coop so four feels like a doddle. 🙂 And I’m a night hawk so plenty of writing time. That and the fact that I’m waking again at 4a.m. and can’t get back over! What else am I gonna do? 😉

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      3. So you are putting aside the poetry for a while. I may have a go at this another time…it is a great discipline, isn’t it? Good on you, Annie, you are amazing!! so with you and some of my friends across the pond, I never get to bed before 4 or 5am, I get to chat with some of you:)

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  28. Oh, I’m still writing poetry! I’ve just sworn off posting unless I write 2000 words a day. Now, I’ve done that and more but my lovely guest bloggers, who are carrying my blog for a month, are so generous in their support that I’m piling up the poetry for a major onslaught in December. Feckin’ videos too!
    If you’re interested in a wee guesting session I have slots available. 😉
    Obviously, this no sleeping malarkey makes for lots of words. Even my comments are lengthy. But then, they always have been. There’s just no shutting some folk up. Some have tried. I lay flowers once in a while. 😉

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  29. Hi Anne-Marie, nice to meet you. My name is Onno Vocks. There are good reasons a lot of folks post under an assumed name rather than their own, for me it worked the other way around. I post under my real name because I refuse to let others tell half truths or whole lies. Thank you for visiting some of my posts, I look forward to reading more of yours. All the best, …O.

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    1. Good to meet you too, Onno. I completely get the need some people may have for anonymity – I felt that way myself until this post. Everyone must do what feels right for themselves given their own circumstances. I enjoyed your articles and the links to others. Many thanks for the follow here. You’re most welcome. 🙂

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