Power of a Hug!

Think about this for a moment. All those times when we were small and we had fallen over and busted our knee, cut ourselves doing something or bruising our ego’s in life’s tumbles, our mom was always there with a hug and cuddle and some amazing words…and all that pain would go away….vanish in a puff of…well, yeah, magic.

We were shown this magic in so many different ways as we grew up, even to the point that we do it for our own children, but alas, as they got older, and especially the male of the species, it became less and less. You know, I’m tough, I don’t need that sissy stuff…meanwhile quailing inside from the pain that life brings.

In a new relationship you see the young’uns wrapped around each other so much you don’t know where one starts and the other ends. THEY FEEL everything at that stage from the flutter of an eyelid to the meaning in a glance. They are so tuned into each other with their energy blending with the power of love. Remember that glow…that feeling that you can climb mountains and heal the world. Well, you can. Just by the simple affect of a hug.

No, not just throw your arms around someone for 1.3 seconds, pat them on the back and say ‘off you go!’. This isn’t a marathon to see how many you can give. This is an act in itself, an expression of who YOU are within. By opening your arms you are saying to someone…I’m trusting you, opening my heart to you, and I am giving myself unconditionally to you. Your body language with the expression you give with it….ie. a smile or loving glance speaks volumes. If it is done with a snarl, trust me, it would be the equivalent to being hugged by a tarantula. Actually, I think I’d rather the tarantula. (My apologies to the spider lovers, after all, they are also God’s creatures too 🙂 ).

So the next time you are with someone and you feel a hug is in order, GIVE them a hug, step outside your boundaries and say to them in your hug….I care, I’m prepared to be open with you, and I’m giving my love to you, unconditionally. And sometimes that is just exactly what they need to help them go through something…a grazed knee, a hard day or even just because. The healing in that one small act is immeasurable, but we avoid it thinking we are overstepping a boundary (usually our own), and it is usually exactly what is needed. If in a circumstance you thought about it, do it.

Sometimes others may react to it by shoving you away and that is usually because of how they have been brought up or even bad experiences in their lives. The best way to signal your intentions is to just open your arms toward them with a smile. They will respond accordingly. But don’t judge their acceptance or rebuttal by reacting in any way. Just be the love that you are within. You have given from that love and the best of who you are. THAT is the important part, that you are giving freely, without any expectations, from who you are within. They will see and feel that, and that is THEIR important part. To see and feel that there IS love in the world, even though they may not be able to reach out for it at that time.

The hug is the jewel of who we are within. It shines out, interacts and heals more than any other act. Your intentions, integrity and care are all wrapped up in those few moments when you embrace. Whether its a baby, a child or a lover it has great meaning. Stand in that truth, break through your walls and be in a space that says it all. And especially with someone you love very much and you feel you have been bogged down by your work or troubles, just stop for a moment, and instead of the usual 1.3 second hug as you walk through the door, put everything down so that you are free, open your arms and be fully present and giving to that beautiful person in front of you and hold it for however long it takes to say ‘I love you, and nothing else matters’.

And everything will change, right at that moment because it has meaning, and care, and love, and all those things that really do matter in this life that we live.

Even Dr’s and scientists are now discovering the beauty and healing in a hug. The following article shows just how powerful it is.

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Fun Facts About Hugging

By Dr. Mercola

Neuroeconomist Paul Zak, also known as “Dr. Love,” recommends at least eight hugs a day to be happier and enjoy better relationships. Psychotherapist Virginia Satir also famously said:

“We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

This may very well be the “hug threshold” that allows your body to produce ample amounts of oxytocin, which is released in response to physical touch. The neuropeptide oxytocin, released by your pituitary gland, is a naturally occurring hormone in your body with incredibly powerful, health-giving properties.

It is also a key reason why the simple act of hugging is such an incredible way to not only bond with others but also boost your physical, and emotional, health.

How Hugging Makes You Healthier.

Hugging increases levels of the “love hormone” oxytocin. This, in turn, may have beneficial effects on your heart health and more. One study found, for instance, that women had lower blood pressure following a brief episode of warm contact with their partner.

A 20-second hug, along with 10 minutes of hand-holding, also reduces the harmful physical effects of stress, including its impact on your blood pressure and heart rate. This makes sense, since hugging is known to lower levels of stress hormones like cortisol. But research suggests there’s even more to it than that. As reported by Mail Online:

“The skin contains a network of tiny, egg-shaped pressure centers called Pacinian corpuscles that can sense touch and which are in contact with the brain through the vagus nerve. The vagus nerve winds its way through the body and is connected to a number of organs, including the heart.

It is also connected to oxytocin receptors. One theory is that stimulation of the vagus triggers an increase in oxytocin, which in turn leads to the cascade of health benefits.”

A 10-second hug a day can lead to biochemical and physiological reactions in your body that can significantly improve your health. According to one study, this includes:

Lower risk of heart disease
Stress reduction
Fight fatigue
Boost your immune system
Fight infections
Ease depression

Does Cuddle Therapy Work?

There’s no doubt that hugging, caressing, and cuddling feel good. As neurologist Shekar Raman, MD, said in the Huffington Post:

“A hug, pat on the back, and even a friendly handshake are processed by the reward center in the central nervous system, which is why they can have a powerful impact on the human psyche, making us feel happiness and joy… And it doesn’t matter if you’re the toucher or touchee. The more you connect with others — on even the smallest physical level — the happier you’ll be.”

Yet, many people are touch-deprived. One study found that one-third of people receive no hugs on a daily basis while 75 percent said they wanted more hugs. Findings such as these, coupled with the emotional and health benefits of human touch, have led to the emergence of cuddle therapy centers, where people can pay for a lunchtime cuddle.

However, the verdict is still out on whether or not cuddles from strangers have the same impact as those from someone you know and trust. While cuddling with a spouse or partner has been shown to boost satisfaction in relationships, at least one study showed that hugs are only beneficial if trust is involved.

The lead researcher actually cautioned against worldwide “free hugs” campaigns (where strangers offer hugs to others), saying that this may be perceived as threatening and actually increase emotional burden and stress. However, proven benefits have been found from cuddling with a pet, which shows hugs don’t have to only be between humans to be beneficial. Even cuddling with your trusted pet may offer significant benefits to your heart and overall health.

Fun Facts About Hugging.

Did you know that, on average, people spend on hour a month hugging? That doesn’t sound like much, but when you consider that the average hug is under 10 seconds long… that’s a lot of hugs!

Happiness Weekly compiled even more fun facts about hugging that highlight just how incredible this act of touch really is. For instance, a full-body hug stimulates your nervous system while decreasing feelings of loneliness, combating fear, increasing self-esteem, defusing tension, and showing appreciation.

And if you had any doubt about the importance of touch, consider that children who aren’t hugged have delays in walking, talking, and reading. A quick hug has a near-immediate impact on health, lowering your heart rate and inducing a calming effect while also leading to a more upbeat mood!

Interestingly, hugging has just as much a benefit for the person doing the hugging as the person being hugged, revealing the reciprocal nature of touch. Touch is even described as a universal language that can communicate distinct emotions with startling accuracy. One study found that touch alone can reveal emotions including anger, fear, disgust, love, gratitude, and sympathy, with accuracy rates of up to 83 percent.

Even More Reasons to Give (or Get) a Hug Today.

Hugs are one of the most succinct ways to encourage your body to release oxytocin, and the more oxytocin your pituitary gland releases, the better able you are to handle life’s stressors.

Oxytocin decreases the level of stress hormones (primarily cortisol) your body manufactures and lowers your blood pressure response to anxiety-producing events. Oxytocin quite likely plays a role in why pet owners heal more quickly from illness, why couples live longer than singles, and why support groups work for people with addictions and chronic diseases.

Oxytocin has also been found to reduce the cravings of drug and alcohol addiction, as well as for sweets. It even has a positive influence on inflammation and wound healing. Even beyond this, regular hugs have the added benefit of:

Cultivating patience and showing appreciation
Activating the Solar Plexus Chakra, which stimulates your thymus gland (this may help balance your production of white blood cells)
Stimulating dopamine, the pleasure hormone, and serotonin, for elevated mood
Balancing out your nervous system for better parasympathetic balance

Do You Need a Good Hug?

Often making a concerted effort to hug the people close to you is one of the best ways to get more hugs in return. This can include your spouse, children, and other family members along with close friends. But even if you’re not currently in a life situation conducive to getting daily hugs and producing enough of your own oxytocin on a regular basis, the good news is there are some alternatives you can use to help you deal in a healthy way with your emotional response to stress and anxiety.

With the already known and still-to-emerge health and quality of life benefits to be derived from the natural release of oxytocin in your body, your best course of action is to make sure you’re cultivating warm, loving, intimate relationships, no matter what stage of life you’re in. Additionally, if you have a pet, just a few minutes petting your dog or cat can promote the release of your body’s “happiness” hormones, including oxytocin. Since touch anywhere on your body, as well as positive interactions and psychological support, are known to increase oxytocin levels, you might also consider:

Holding hands and kissing
Giving and receiving a backrub
Nurturing others
Getting a massage
Practicing mind-body therapies like breathing exercises and yoga

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Well, all I can see is the positives about it, so what are you waiting for….hugs!…and lots of them!
And be happier, healthier and enjoy the connection. Namaste

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Mark Lanesbury

Decided to dance a little deeper in life, and wow, can spirit dance!

17 thoughts on “Power of a Hug!”

  1. Hugs to both of you. My youngest daughter K always gave strong hugs when she was little, then that changed. I got the arms around me and a few barely felt pats on the back. She is coming around again..slowly. I was brought up knowing friends of my parents. Europeans are big in hugging and kissing on the cheek. I have no hesitation when giving someone a simply hug hello, or I’m here for you hug. 😊

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    1. Thank you ramblingsfromamum, hugs gratefully accepted too.
      We usually go through many changes in our lives and I think the hugs show where we are at. The more stressed we are, the more we want a hug, but won’t ask for it. Because we know within that the hug asks us to be open and we are afraid that the carefully created wall to hold on to whatever we are going through, is a very timid wall against that power from a well aimed hug. The love in that hug can penetrate anything, that is why on many occasions we can hug someone and they stun us by bursting into tears. And it is usually exactly what they need.
      I left momus’s share of hugs in the last comment…do I have to each time, I could get to like this 😀
      And you are right, different cultures understand those hugs in different ways. The Europeans are much more open to sharing themselves in a greeting.
      Thank you for the share (especially the hugs 🙂 )

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    1. Thank you, accepted and returned. And I didn’t realise you were an Aussie…hello! 🙂
      Trust can be a slow thing to build. I always remember a comment I made to my mum when I had grown up (well, in years anyway 🙂 ).
      I made a comment about something that had happened when I was young and it had trashed me big time. And her comment shocked me. She said ‘that was only meant for such and such, that had no meaning, it was only an off handed comment’.
      The belief in what that event was, was etched in my mind forever, but with her comment I had realised it was how I took it, at that young inexperienced time, and made it grow into an ogre.
      It was just me, it always is just me… and how I, from my upbringing and inputs from life, had taken something out of context believing it was aimed at me.
      So trust is built on our experiences, and sometimes wobbly ones at that. I finally realised that the only way to receive that trust was to stand in that truth that I was, and a trust would be built around it. Give from a loving and trusting place and it would be felt and given in return. Not expecting it, as others are at different stages within their journey. And a hug is the beginning of that truth for it always says who you are within.
      Um, I got carried away. Must have got that from momus, her site is brushing off on me. Shhh, don’t tell her I said that, she’ll steal my hugs 😀
      Thank you for sharing ramblingsfromamum, it has its up’s and down’s does this life, but the hugs are so worth it. Namaste

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      1. Well HELLO, yes Melbourne-ite here Mark. My daughter K suffers from BPD, so it was hard for her to feel genuine about giving hugs. It’s okay about rambling, I do it constantly 😀 we won’t tell her, it’s between you and me and here’s another one to start your day {{ }} haveagoodone Mark…😄

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      2. I’m on the mid north coast N.S.W. The BPD is a very difficult thing to deal with. I have 3 friends with it, and it can be very wide ranging in its effects, on them AND all those around them. I hope your journey has lots of love woven within it.
        Ah, rambling is acceptable then. Look out momus 🙂
        Hugs accepted and given in return. They will heal anything, may it comfort and heal your daughter and you 🙂 Namaste

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    1. My pleasure Anne-Marie, hugs all around I be thinking. May it be the catchcry for 2015.
      Hug’s, hug’s, bring out your hug’s! 😀
      Thank you for allowing me to share your site, it was a pleasure to do. Thanks again. Mark xo

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