The Human Way

Do you know the good when you see good

And feel it, it scent it, sense it,

Recognised by actions, words

Someone well-intentioned.

Do you forgive when somehow form

Is broken, errors made

Or jump for joy at fortune’s chance

To jeer at mistakes done or said.

Do you know good and still know good

When erring treads their path

Recognise that we all fail, forgive

Or do you laugh,

Remark or feel that, justified,

You have cause for glee,

Dismiss that person callously,

It could be you or me.

Do you know good and know that good

Sometimes makes mistakes

But, in withal, throughout it all

Good still stands up straight

And nothing changes what we’ve done,

Or said or thought when wrong

But knowing that it’s understood

Helps us keep on going.

Do you do good, strive for good

Most times and most days,

Then, rest assured, when good is flawed

That’s the human way.

Do you know growth and know that goodness

While for good will yearn

Without mistakes and learning curves

We would never learn.


16 thoughts on “The Human Way”

  1. Thank you momus, and a great post. We do have our bumps and holes in life to teach us truly. And they are there to show us…us!
    Now if I can just find my shovel and take my foot out of my mouth, I’ll see if I can find my way out 🙂
    I bow to your friendship, and the beauty in your heart from your life’s experiences, in your ‘Human Way’ 🙂

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  2. We’re all simply human. Meaning we make mistakes, we fall down, and stress over the little things; however 95 times we fall down we will 96 times get up. 🙂 love this!


  3. A lovely reflection on true generosity, I think… to be willing to see the good when given the opportunity to see otherwise, is a great gift we can all offer one another… When we practice this, it becomes hard after a while to understand what is gained by judgment, because we discover the threads of goodness that join us all, each to each…


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    1. Very much a case of forgiving our trespasses because, as sure as fate, if we’ve not walked the road yet we will at some point. I like the comfort of not having to judge, where possible, partly from fear it’ll come back to bite me further along the way and partly because, to the best of my knowledge, we all share the same capacity for erring. Peace to you too, Michael.

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  4. Very well put, Anne-Marie, and, in many ways, life would be insufferable if we knew everything and got everything right all the time. As long as we strive to do good then every mistake will help.


    1. I think if we got it right all the time we would be insufferable to everyone else, Chris. There’s a strange comfort in knowing that we’re all flawed whether we like it or not. It’s how we choose to deal with those flaws in ourselves and others that can make all the difference to the learning curve that surely is life.


  5. a most charitable Christian viewpoint – I try, but frankly, with age, I have much less patience with the mistakes of others (i.e. politicians) – and ultimately, my own mistakes remain the hardest to forgive


    1. I must admit I usually think of politicians as a breed apart and they never entered my thoughts here. Not very Christian at all. :/ I can think of quite a few who are probably very good people but whose ineptitude makes me crazy. Then there are the others!

      I was definitely thinking more of those we recognise as intrinsically good but who may do or say something that could colour our judgement and how we respond to that. As long as someone has the best of intentions I can pretty much forgive them anything. But I recognise myself within that genre and yet, as you say, it’s difficult to forgive ourselves even when others might.

      I’m reminded right now of a conversation I once had with a lady I only knew for a few years who was so sad and weeping at the thought that she would never be forgiven in eternity for the way she had treated her husband who was already dead. She was essentially a good woman but she had her regrets and could not come to terms with her own failings, unable to make recompense to her husband, unable to reconcile.

      I was reminded then of something I’d once read and told her. There’s a pride attached to our inability to forgive ourselves and imagine we can’t be forgiven, as if we have higher standards and expectations than the almighty himself. Like most double-edged swords, it reminded me to at least try to be as kind to myself as I try to be with others. I guess our own expectations of ourselves when we feel we have failed are those that are hardest to come to terms with. Others’ pale into insignificance by comparison because we think we should know better. We somehow feel more culpable. A developed conscience can make for a harsh taskmaster for ourselves.

      Sound as if I’m on the pulpit here, Paul. I don’t mean to but it vexes me when people whom I know are good people – because we do know goodness when we sense it – give themselves a harder time than they probably deserve. And I abhor the glee some feel when goodness falls. That, ‘Ha! Not so good as you think you are, eh?’ The point being that that’s true, we’re not, but no one is. All we can do is try. And forgive ourselves and others when we fail. Because we all do no matter how good we aspire to be.

      I shall now go and hunt out that double-edged sword and cut swathes through some of my own regrets, the ones that remind ‘can do better’ and attempt to do so.x

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  6. Good morning! I hope you are well!

    I agree it is hard to forgive ourselves, to forgive others, and to remember that we are all in human form with the almighty soul within each of us. therefor we are not almighty entirely only in most part
    (Subconcious = almighty mind[99.9% of our being- is all the same within everyone], conscious= human mind[.1%, the part that makes us different/special/decides our purposef],
    this allows for the human aspect to come into play. I would like to pose 2 quotes and see what your thoughts are. The quotes are:

    Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.
    -Samuel Beckett

    Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.
    -Antoine De Saint-Exupery

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    Take care! God bless!



    1. The Beckett quote is something I can relate to while Saint-Exupery’s something worth aspiring to. I imagine the latter to be unachievable in this lifetime while the former encourages us to persist in the effort regardless. The idea of doing better rather than of struggling to attain the ever elusive appeals more. Who quantifies perfection? I certainly cannot and only ever imagine I glimpse it in the most elemental of sights. That then must also be a quality judgement on my part, making the idea of perfection purely subjective. I prefer the first quote, it being within the realms of human and spiritual capacity and perhaps guiding us towards the second.

      One of my favourite quotes from a particularly favourite book is, ‘And what is good, Phaedrus, and what is not good, need we ask anyone to tell us these things?’ It refers to the nature of quality and the intrinsic desire within ourselves that recognises and seeks that essence. Perhaps both quotes of yours lead, ultimately, to the same place.

      I’m afraid I know very little about the medicinal benefits of most herbs and spices but trust your advice which I will certainly look into.

      Many thanks for reading, commenting and posing reflections that are never wasted. I greatly appreciate your time and thoughts.

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